Dealing with the Helicopter Parent and College


The school year will be wrapping up soon, and with college looming heavily in the distance for many young adults the struggle between parents and their students will be kicked into overdrive.

Even if you’re a graduating senior, preparing to begin your freshmen year in a few months there will be plenty of long discussions and arguments with your anxious, concerned parents to live through this summer, especially if your priorities don’t match up.

Just remember that you’re not alone, and that your parents are arguing with you because they care.

1)Pick your battles

A good night’s sleep will not make your argument disappear. Mom and Dad (and you for that matter) are not going to change their mind overnight. So you need to pick your priorities and choose to compromise on issues that aren’t as important to you. You don’t need to argue over your parents over every single detail. After all, does it really matter if you join honors society as long as you live in the residence hall you want to live in?

2) You have to deal with the Consequences

It may be easier to sit back and let Mom and Dad do everything for you, (especially if you know you’ll argue over everything) but it’s probably not the best idea. You are the one who will be living with these decisions. So if you let Mom take your math assessment online for you, it will be you who has to take the class that she gets you placed into; whether it’s calculus 2 or pre-calculus the class will be a waste of your time and your money if it isn’t the class you actually belong in.

3) Be Understanding

The reason your parents have become so overbearing lately it that they care about you. They don’t want you to suffer through the same miserable mistakes that they dealt with. They remember what it was like to be 17 and unsure of what you will do with the rest of your life. They want to help you. So don’t throw every decision and every argument in their face. Consult them, help them get involved in your decisions and explain to them why you want to do something. You’ll find that if they understand your reasoning they will often side with you.

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Samantha Porter

Samantha Porter

My name is Samantha Porter - alumni of Towson University, class of '11. I am an avid blogger who enjoys fashion, style and D.I.Y. projects. When not browsing my favorite sites such as Pinterest and Wanelo, you can find me at home with my dog, Bruno!

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