In movies and TV shows, dating in college is almost always the same: the main character bumps into a cute gal or guy at the library or passes them a pen in class, and it’s love at first sight. Of course, real life is a lot tougher. The truth is, meeting the “right one” in college is tough. However, there are a few steps you can take to help you make a good connection.
Find Some Common Ground
The easiest way to meet someone in college is to just get out there! Participating in activities outside of class is the simplest and most effective method. Even if it isn’t in your major or something you’re particularly good at, you may find a match just for showing up.
For example, if you love playing badminton, join an intramural team with the rest of the cute girls and guys. Passionate about volunteering? Start a community group for your soulmate to sign on to.
Get Off Campus
Don’t limit your dating lines to your residence hall or campus. Instead, get out in your town and find someone who doesn’t go to college with you. Hang out at the local coffee shop, check out a bookstore or antique place, or attend a festival or fair. You might just meet alumni or a local that you can spend some off-campus time with.
Plan (or Attend) a Singles Function
Campuses really don’t like play matchmaker, but that doesn’t stop some activity leaders from hoping in the love train. If you see any speed dating, matchmaking, or just singles night out events, don’t be shy! What do you have to lose but a night outside your dorm room? Bring along a friend and see if there’s anyone to interest you there. You could be surprised at what some singles fun could do.
Make Yourself the Person You Want to Meet
I think we can all admit that we have a wish-list when it comes to dating. Maybe we’re really attracted to athletic guys or we love them to be well-read and traveled. If your list includes some specifics, think about how you can location target these people. Go to the gym during busier times, plan your study sessions out in the open at the library, attend cultural talks or museum trips. Be the person you want to meet and you’ll be more likely to find them.
Don’t Shy Away From Online Dating
Online dating is still controversial, and we can understand why. While we generally suggest avoiding those apps that are less classy, there are still more reputable ways to meet a guy or a girl online. For example, if you spot a friend-of-a-friend on Facebook, ask for an intro. Love a Twitter user? Follow back and strike up a conversation. However, you do it, just be safe. Meet in a public space, preferably with friends around. And always let others know where you are at, who you are with, and when you should be back.
Ask Someone to Play Cupid
Your best way to make a match is to ask your friends! Those already a part of a couple have an instant line to the opposite sex you may like. And if they’re mutual friends, the more likely you’re to have at least something in common! Be open and honest with what you’re looking for and what you want to avoid and see if your friends have a person in mind. The old fashioned way is sometimes still the best way.