Living with someone else is always a difficult experience. Remember living with mom and dad, or, worse, siblings? It’s definitely not easy, even when it’s your family. So living with a relative stranger can be especially rough, even more so because it might be your first time living away from home. If you and roommate just don’t see eye to eye, that’s one thing, but what about when you really don’t trust them?
For whatever reason, you’ve been paired with this… sketchy person. Maybe you used to get along, and now not so much. Maybe you were trusting, but last semester they showed you that that was a mistake. Maybe you’ve switched dorms only to discover that that was a mistake.
Talk to the School
The first thing you need to try to do is convince the school that it was a mistake. Approach your RA and explain the situation. It’s important to communicate that you do not trust your roommate, not just that you don’t get along. They need to understand that this isn’t normal roommate squabbles; this is a whole other level. Your RA will definitely have steps to take to hopefully be able to separate the two of you. There is likely a vacancy in another dorm, or you might be able to switch with somebody.However, if you can’t afford to move to another dorm, or perhaps you signed a lease for an apartment off-campus, then you might need to take a different course of action.
Protect Your Items
You might not think that your valuables are safe, either because your roommate will use your things without your permission or worse. Try and organize your things underneath your bed, conceal them in a trunk, or even in storage lockers. If necessary, make sure that you get a good combination lock.
Don’t leave cash lying around, or let them have access to your credit or debit card. Luckily, you should have a chip card now instead of a magstripe one, so it will be harder for them to strip your information, though they can still copy down the numbers.
Keep Yourself Busy
Alright, this may sound counterintuitive, but it’s actually probably better that you keep yourself occupied. As long as you make sure that all of your items are safe, then you don’t want to interact with your roommate more than you have to. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself in more messy arguments and the target of ill will. Keep busy with homework, and if that’s not enough then there’s plenty more you can do.
- Get involved in clubs or athletic groups.
- Make new friends.
- Find internships in your major; the career center should be able to help you no matter if you’re majoring in a STEM field, counseling, or even art.
- Get a part time job, as long as you believe you’ll be able to balance those responsibilities and school.
College campuses are abundant with activity. You should have no problem finding activities that occupy your time.
Set Things Up for Next Year
Make sure that you get an apartment or some other housing accommodation for next year. There are certainly challenges to living with your friends, but it will certainly be a better situation that what you’re currently going through. If you don’t have any options for roommates next year, hold interviews or make sure that your school matches you up with someone better. They need to understand that a repeat of this situation is not an option.Overall, this sort of situation is unpleasant but bearable. You will get through this. The light is at the end of the semester, which seems so far away, but I promise it will be the end before you know it. College roommates are always a unique situation, but there are ways for you to get around it. Just make sure that next year you’re in a better place.