So You’re Not Going to Your Top Choice? Now What?

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Hearing back from colleges is obviously one of the most frustrating processes to go through, especially in the competitive world that we live in today. After nearly a year of tours, information sessions, applications, guidance counselor meetings, and standardized testing, you finally get a letter from your top pick that hopefully reads something like, “Congratulations! I’m pleased to offer you admission into the Class of 2017!” However, I’m sure many of you have found out by now that it doesn’t always go your way. So now you’re stuck going to your second, third, or even your last choice school and you might still be unhappy. But guess what? You don’t have to be.

So why listen to me? I’ve been through it. I got rejected from my top choice in the early decision round of applicants and I know how much it sucks. Getting your hopes up and then having them crushed hurts, but it’s up to you to not let it keep you down. Now that you’ve found out where you’re going, you have to make the best of it if you haven’t accepted that already. So how do you do it? Here are some ways:

  1. Stay positive-It’s cliche and you’ve probably heard it before, but your attitude does make all the difference. If you go into it negative, then you’re going to try and find everything wrong with the situation, when you could be making the best of it. If you’re acting miserable, people won’t be as likely to go out and befriend you.
  2. You’re not the only one– Just look at the numbers. Schools don’t have a 100% acceptance rate. With the large number of people applying to a select few schools, you are bound to meet others in the same boat as you. So many of my friends, from home and college, were rejected from their top choice schools. If everybody that was rejected went in with a pessimistic attitude, college would be absolutely terrible.
  3. Remember why you applied to this school in the first place– You obviously chose it for a reason. Maybe it had a strong program in your field. Maybe it was in the city that you always dreamed of living in. Maybe it had the school spirit your high school lacked. Whatever the reason is, you didn’t just pick this school out of a hat. If you stay focused on the reasons why you applied, it will make your experience better.
  4. Join Teams/Clubs/Organizations/Greek Life– The easiest way to enjoy your time at school is to make friends. What easier way to do that than by joining a group of people who have a common interest? The more friends you make, the better college will be. If you like a particular sport, try and join that team! Every college has different levels of ability, so don’t feel discouraged if you’re not the best at it. If you want to rush, don’t let anything hold you back. It’s a good way to meet people and create a bond with them.
  5. Accept it– It’s hard to do and it’s a harsh reality, but it’s true. You just need to move on. Forget about all other schools and stop comparing yourself to them. If you just be happy that you were accepted to this school and you try your hardest, it will all work out in the end.
  6. If it really doesn’t work, transferring is an option– As much as I hate saying this, you can leave if you really want to. I was so close to transferring after first semester because I really didn’t give the school a chance. I can’t advise it enough, but you really have to try everything and use this as a last resort. Only transfer after you really have done everything you can to try and enjoy the school because it’s a huge commitment and involves a lot of work.

Ultimately, it’s up to you to make the most of your college years. If you don’t like something, change it. Be aggressive and do what you enjoy because that is what will make you happy in the end. And always remember that if it does get bad, there is always a way out. Whatever you choose to do in the end, make sure it makes you happy.

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Samantha Porter

Samantha Porter

My name is Samantha Porter - alumni of Towson University, class of '11. I am an avid blogger who enjoys fashion, style and D.I.Y. projects. When not browsing my favorite sites such as Pinterest and Wanelo, you can find me at home with my dog, Bruno!