Dating in college can be tricky, because it’s hard to tell what other people’s priorities are in those beginning stages. Maybe they’re just looking for someone to hang out with casually. Maybe they’re just looking to try dating. Maybe they’re up for a serious relationship. Of course, even more importantly, you also need to consider what you want out of it! Thankfully, through this process, there are different options to pursue for each stage of the relationship.
No need to wait for the boy to initiate, for the girl to initiate, or for your friend to decide for you. Dating someone you like is supposed to be fun, but games are probably best kept out of it!
The “Let’s hang out sometime!” Stage
Oh boy. Doesn’t anyone know how to say “I’d like to go on a date with you” anymore? Maybe we’re past that bold statement and we’ve moved on to what’s easier. Or, maybe whomever is initiating this “hang out” is just trying to keep things moving slowly, feeling it out, and waiting to pick up on something from you. Whatever the reason, these casual first “hang outs” should be exactly that: casual!
Pick something simple that will allow for you two to talk and get to know each other before you start getting formal (yes, the dinner and movie can wait!). Maybe take a stroll around your nearby college town, check out that great coffee place downtown that all the locals flock to, or explore a nearby park or nature trail. These off-campus locations are low pressure, fun, and will allow for plenty of conversation!
The “We’re together, but not serious yet” Stage
So you’ve made it clear that you’re interested in going somewhere with this, and you’re past those awkward “what are we?” discussions. Now it’s time to put a little more effort in! Planning something more “official” together, like a dinner out or a movie, shows the other person that you value the time you spend with them and can be a fun way of taking things to the next level.
The Serious, Long-term Stage
At this point, you’re probably happy and lucky enough that every outing feels like a date (awww)! But really, it’s true. Once you’re past the burdens of what you’ve always been told is a proper date (by your favorite middle school romantic comedies), you realize that you guys really can do whatever you want, and the fact that you’re both enjoying spending time together trying something new, exploring, and discovering new things about each other, is what makes it a date. So have fun, and always make sure to enjoy your time together, however you’re spending it!
One way I’ve always showed my boyfriend I care about him is by sharing my OCM care packages with him whenever my mom has sent them along on different holidays or occasions! And with midterms right around the corner for so many college students, now is an ideal time both to send and receive such packages.
With the promo code BLOGGER10, you’ll save $10 off any order at OCM.com, good through July 1st, 2016! So be sure check out those care packages or any other goodies.
I hope you’ll share them with friends, and of course, your date!! Good luck, and have fun. <3