Parent’s Corner: Thanksgiving Break


University campus on break

We have a lot to be thankful for this season — but nothing greater than for college-aged children coming home. Thanksgiving break is the perfect time to check in on college freshman. From gauging how they’re doing mentally or working out a plan on how to get them through the end of the semester, here’s how you can open up lines of communication, watch for any red flags, and help your freshman succeed.

Before the Break Starts

One of the worst mistakes you can make as a parent is to put too much pressure on your student before they’ve even left for home. Sure, you want to remind them to pack a sweater or try to convince them that flying is better than driving. But by nagging or upping their anxiety, they’ll look less forward to being with you.

Instead, try to remember that their break is meant to be a relaxing, easy going time. As adults, they should be allowed to make their own decisions, including mistakes. Let them lead the ship.

Upon Arrival

Depending on how far they have traveled, the first night may not be the best to judge their mental state or have a heart-to-heart. Allow the first day to be a quiet time. On the second day (or after they’ve settled in), ask them open-ended, nonjudgmental questions about school. For example: “You mentioned you have a tough schedule coming up next semester. What classes are you excited for?”

It can be tempting to slip in a few, “When I was in college…” stories, but for the most part, those are probably not helpful. Instead, practice active and patient listening skills. Talk less than them, use shorter sentences when they are replying, and allow them to vent or talk out a problem.

When Celebrating

Every student is different, but many freshmen are more humble about their accomplishments than their parents. Thanksgiving dinner with the extended family isn’t the time to shout out their great GPA or that they joined a sorority. Let them share the good news themselves!

In addition, don’t be offended if they’ve become guarded or want to keep holidays simple and small. Be open to changing plans.

parents enjoying time with their child over break

Before Heading Back to School

This is when red flags usually pop up. If a student talks about not wanting to go back, you know it might be time for a heart-to-heart or even an intervention. But more subtle signs that your student might be anxious include avoiding discussing next semester plans, asking for money, evading questions about their social life, or feeling a drastic shift in personality.

As parents of an adult, you can’t force your college student into any decision — even if the decision is in their best interest. However, you can offer your support and love. If your child does express fears that college isn’t working for them, listen without losing your temper. Sometimes all they need is a springboard. Other times, they want a person to tell them that they are there for them no matter the outcome. Luckily, if you have this talk before they leave, you can work out a game plan for the rest of the semester.

Once They’ve Returned

Even if you didn’t see any potential issues in your child, use post-break upswings in a mood to establish a connection when they’re on campus. Set up a calling schedule, send a care package or gift, and check in on details they discussed with (such as a professor they dislike or an internship they were applying to). They’ll love knowing you were listening to them just as much you’ll love that they opened up to you.

Move-In Checklist for Girls


College Checklist for Girls


College may seem far off in the distance, but the reality is there’s only one year left. That means it’s time to start talking dorm rooms. And of course, figuring out your style and making sure you have the essentials ready to go is an absolute must. This OCM shopping list is the only one you’ll need. Here’s a breakdown of everything that’s on the move-in checklist for girls.


Truth be told, dorm beds are kind of miserable no matter where you go to school. It’s almost universal that you’ll need a few things to make your sleeping space comfy. The first is the right kind of bedding. Extra-long sheets, comforter/quilt, and pillows are the basics. But also consider investing in a great mattress pad if you’re worried about a bad back or a thin mattress.


Communal bathrooms can be intimidating, but they’re a breeze once you’ve got the right gear. Of course, you’ll want your beauty products and favorite shampoos and soaps. We say splurge and get the best to make your shower experience more luxurious. What you really need is a pair or two of flip flops, a shower caddy to carry it all in, and a set of durable towels.

Home Essentials

Colleges do not give their students cleaning services for their rooms — you’re in charge of that. This means you need to stock up on cleaning supplies and gear. Broom or a sweeper are great to have handy, as well as paper towels and some basic sanitizing wipes.

Out of Sight

Small spaces means getting creative with your storage. Under the bed boxes are crucial, as are closet organizers that hang on the door. Trunks are great for being decor, seating, and storage, but you can also consider ottomans with storage built in as an option.

Dorm Cooking

Believe it or not, but you can cook when you’re living in the dorms. Most come with a small, communal kitchenette, and you’ll want a fridge and/or microwave for yourself. That means you’ll also need a few basics — pot, pan, mixing and measuring bowls, containers, mugs, plates, silverware, etc.

Desk Supplies

Keep yourself organized with everything you need — staplers, paperclips, pens, and pencils, together in a sturdy box or desk organizer. You may also want to invest in the must-haves of studying, like highlighters, notecards, notebooks, and other portable items you can take to and from class and study sessions.


A laptop or at least a tablet with a portable keyboard should be at the top of your list; it’s an essential in the digital age. But don’t miss out on other essentials like a personal printer, a surge protector, extra batteries, and a carrying case. A TV in your dorm is also a great addition that will let you have movie nights or just “veg,” and a pair of noise-canceling headphones will keep you sane if you get a roommate who snores.


Now this category is where you can have some fun! Mix in some touches from home (like a favorite throw pillow or a picture of your BFFs) and add in some new, adult items like a potted plant or a gorgeous vintage mirror. The trick is to come up with a theme or particular style and work with it until it feels like home.  

Extra Essentials

Some things don’t fit into categories but are totally necessary. We’re thinking of first aid kits, umbrellas, lockboxes, and other frequently used items. Think about what you use around your house and add it to this category. You may be surprised what you need — and what you can leave behind.

Parents Corner- How Often You Should Check-In


College Student stressed over textbook

Sending your child off to college can be an emotional time for everyone involved. As a parent, it can be especially hard to get into a routine of not having the student around. Setting boundaries and establishing rituals is important in maintaining healthy relationships with college-aged kids. Here’s how you can determine how often you should check in based on your student’s personality or situation.

The Homesickness Factor

One of the most normal phases of freshman year is going through some periods of homesickness. Even the toughest, adventurous, or independent students may go through this when first moving into dorms. Being in a stressful environment or having a lack of familial support only exaggerates it.

If your child is showing signs of homesickness, it may be tempting to increase your contact or encourage them to come home. However, it can harm the student if you tell them that you miss them, increase your phone calls, or pressure them to visit in order to feel better. Instead, ease back, encourage them to get out, and praise them when they find something new to love about living on their own. Set up weekly calls instead of nightly, and help them book one trip home soon so they have something to look forward to.

The Close-to-Homebody

When we think of living on campus, we think of living more than a few hours away from home. Today, however, many students choose to live in dorms not far from where they grew up which can make it hard to determine how often parents should initiate calls or visits.

For homebodies who frequently visit, making calls short and to-the-point will help establish boundaries. You want the student to be independent (and do their own laundry), so over communicating can make them feel like they’ve never left. And it can encourage them to treat dorm life like they are commuting instead of living on their own.

The Long-Distance Students

One of the trickier parent-student situations is when a child decides to live on campus hours away from parents. In this case, it can be terrifying to ease back and let a student be on their own without checking in often.

In this case, it’s important to be honest and have a conversation early on what your student wants and what you expect in terms of them reaching out to you. Depending on your situation (such as if you’re paying their tuition or not), you may be able to call the shots. But as parents of adults, it’s important to remember that your student may not be on board with daily phone calls and video chats. Instead, ask them what they feel is appropriate and find common ground. Same goes for visits.

The Solo Student 

A student who goes dark can be scary for parents. When you don’t know what they are doing or how they are feeling, it can be difficult to adjust to the new norm. But in many cases, a student wanting space is demonstrating to themselves and you that they are setting boundaries.

Using the same advice for long distance students, open the conversation. Ask them how much is too much when it comes to calls or texts. Ask if they prefer one way of getting a hold of them over the other. Suggest a code word for emergencies or a set day to have a check-in chat. They’ll love that you are respecting their wishes and you’ll feel better having a set routine to follow.

Nervous Parents: Sending Your Kid Off to College



The first day of school can be an emotional time for any parent. But when it comes to sending your kids off to college for the first time (or for their senior year), the stakes can seem much higher. Dealing with empty nesting and worrying about how your child will do when they are no longer under your care is never easy. However, you can address your fears, anxieties, and worries with several simple coping methods and strategies.


Worry: The Loss of “Parenting”

The eighteen-plus years you spent watching your child learn and grow were certainly some of the most wonderful and fulfilling of your entire life. It’s natural that when that time comes to an end and the child goes off on their own, the parent may feel a sort of loss or vacancy we commonly call “empty nesting.”

Here’s the good news: you’re no less their parents than when they were in elementary school or in high school. In fact, many college students will need your love and guidance more now than ever before! Finding the balance between over-parenting (i.e. treating them like a child) and providing guidance and support can be difficult. One of the best ways to build a healthy relationship with a new college student is to talk directly to them like you would a friend. Be honest, upfront, and share with them your feelings.


Worry: They Will Fail Without You

Some students hit their stride when they are more independent. Others need a push. No matter where your kid is, it is important to remember that they are now responsible for their academic results. There’s no helping them on science reports or reminding them a million times of their big test.

So how do you deal if or when your kid struggles to keep up? Provide them with resources at their school. This might take a little research on your part, but remind your student of tutoring centers, encourage them to see their academic advisor, and offer up your own editing help on a paper.

However (and this is a BIG caveat), you need to remember that they are adults and overstepping will not help them. Professors, advisors, and college administrators frown on or forbid parents from calling their offices or attempting to fight a student’s battles. While you can provide phone numbers or locations, do not cross the line and step in for them.


Worry: They Won’t Fit in or Get Along

College is a different experience for every student. Like high school, there are cliques and social groups, and it can be hard to make your mark or find your kind of group. Watching from afar as parents can be even more nerve-wracking!

With students that are more on the shy side or are having problems getting along with roommates, think positive. What is your student’s best characteristic? Share with them why they are great in your eyes and encourage them to seek out spaces where they will be appreciated (like a club or sorority). A little positivity can boost their spirits and help them remember that making new friends is only temporary.


Worry: They’ll Be Homesick

While you may be more concerned that you’ll miss them, don’t forget that they will miss you too (if not more)! College can be scary for them, even if leaving home for school has been their dream. That’s why it is important to share a bit of home with them.

Schedule phone calls, send fun and unexpected care packages, exchange emails regularly, and plan in advance for weekend visits. With your love and support, you both will get through the first semester (and beyond) of a new school year.

Parents: Going From ‘Empty Nester’ to Summer Break ‘Host’


It starts with dropping your child off at college with tears in your eyes. You spend the entire school year missing them. But then comes an extended break, like summer, and you’re ready to ship them off again! The transition from empty nester to hosting summer breaks can be difficult, but these tips help you enjoy your time with your college-aged kids.


Discuss the Ground Rules Before They Head Home

If your student is still in school, now is the perfect time to discuss what you expect of them during the summer break. Remind them that you’re not their maid, driver, or cook. If they have survived all year in the dorms on their own, they can certainly pick up their room or do their own laundry when they are back living with you.

You will also want to go through curfews, family time, and visits from romantic partners. These are all tricky, sensitive subjects that you can turn a blind eye to when they are out of the house. But when summer comes, you’ll need to reevaluate your rules or expectations for them.

Remember that they have lived independently for the last nine months. That means that they may be unused to checking in when they go out late at night or asking if they can eat out of your pantry. Your best bet is to listen to their concerns and meet them halfway, such as moving curfew up from 10 o’clock until 1 AM or later.


Plan Out Family Time With Them and Schedule It Online

Summer is one big opportunity to reconnect with family members. But for a student who is working, visiting friends, taking summer classes, etc., it can be easy to forget that part. Work with your student to set up a weekly night together to do something everyone will enjoy.

Have them pick the activity or encourage a laid back event, such as seeing a movie or checking out a new museum together. While it may not be something you’re interested in, the key is getting quality time with them.

If your family does a summer vacation, be sure they know that they are (or are not) invited. Talk about who is paying for what, where they are expected to sleep, and allow them to make decision on things like the hotel, the restaurants, or any guests (if allowed). Again, it’s important to remember and respect that they are now adults who have successfully lived independently. Vacationing like children may backfire.

Finally, schedule everything online. As we mentioned, college students are busy, even over the summer! The best way to communicate that you would like to spend time with them is, at first, an in-person convo and then putting the date in a shared family calendar app.


Remember: Little Things Go a Long Way

Having a college-aged adult living with you is odd. On one hand, they seem to want nothing to do with you outside of the free place to crash in between semesters. The next, they may be upset because you’re not upholding some silly tradition they liked when they were a kid.

First, remember that they are still sensitive to your words. Being judgemental on things like their strange hair color, how much they sleep on their days off, or their sudden love of frisbee can cause friction that can ruin your time together. So don’t sweat the small stuff.

Instead, appreciate the little things. Verbally express how much you love having them around or how you love cooking an old family recipe with them. Share a new interest you may have developed while they were gone and ask them their opinions on things like the color of a new car you’re buying or a birthday gift for your spouse.

Surviving summer break is a balancing act that requires open dialogue between you and your student. By keeping things light and positive and being sure to respect their experiences and needs, you can make it a memorable break for everyone.   

Parent’s Corner: Talking to Your Kid about Getting a Job


Parents: College Kids Getting Jobs

When you get that first college tuition bill for your student, there is bound to be a bit of sticker shock attached. Every year, the cost of getting a degree rises at nearly every school. While scholarships and outside funding are available, finding that elusive full-ride is harder than ever. That is why many parents will sit down this fall and talk to their children about the importance of getting their first job or paid internship. Here are a few tips on how to discuss working in college with your student.

What You Need to Consider

Before you talk, it’s important to understand the other side of the picture. For example, are you sure your student’s schedule can actually accommodate a job? Many take a mixture of morning, afternoon, and night classes throughout the week (and even some weekends), making it hard to find a job that caters to that crazy, changing schedule.

Another aspect you should consider is what your expectation of their grades is. It can be hard to balance activities and work normally, let alone when your first priority is going to school full-time! If your child is struggling, this may not be the time to encourage it.

Finally, it’s important to understand their personal academic and career goals. Do you know what your child wants to do with their degree after graduation? This can give you an idea of jobs that may be worth their time and efforts or if they may be more suited for an internship. For example, a future teacher might benefit from tutoring, rather than doing fast food work.

Make It Worth Their Efforts

Most students get that jobs = money, but they may not be aware of the other benefits. For example, if you see an opening for a job as an animal tech, your veterinarian major may not understand how great it would look on their resume or may not see it as a way to network. Casually discussing this can be a great way to bring up the job conversation naturally.

If the goal is to get an internship, don’t forget to discuss the benefits of a paid versus an unpaid and which one is right for them. Encourage them to speak with professors or to an advisor if they’re unsure, and introduce them to a former college student if you can. Hearing it from outside sources can inspire them to act.

Lend a Hand

It can be intimidating to search for a job, especially with resumes and interviews. If your student did not work in high school, taking these unknown steps can be scary and a test of confidence. You can help out by offering to assist by proof reading their resume (or pointing them towards someone more capable), helping search job sites, or brainstorming work around town they can take on.

At the same time, be very careful not to overstep or take over. If you do too much, they may be tempted to let you do all the work without taking ownership. Or, on the other hand, they may lose interest and forget about it all together. It’s a fine line to walk, so be sure to check in often.

Be Honest At All Times

This isn’t the time to hold back. If money is a major concern, especially from your perspective, this is the time to open up. Tell them of your concerns and the reality of the situation. At this point in their lives, they should be able to understand and hear you out.

At the same time, let them talk honestly with you. Listen to their concerns, and help them think through their worries. Balancing jobs and student life may not be easy, but with your help and encouragement, you can make the difference in their decision.

Parent’s Corner: 6 Reasons to Send Your Student a Care Package


Parents Care Package

With your kid going off to school, you may be missing those little moments you’ve spent together or the times you’ve spoiled them with a little extra attention. With them not at home or near by, it can be difficult to think of ways to show that same kind of love and attention all year round. That’s why we love the convenience and fun of sending care packages throughout the year. Whether to celebrate or to make the transition easier, there are so many reasons to send your student a care package today. Here’s our six top reasons to send a care package.

1.   To Celebrate

Are you a mom who still sends Valentines or decorates the house in green for St. Patrick’s Day? Or are you a dad who hates missing out on birthdays or reasons to say “awesome job!” on a test or award? With care packages, you can be sure that no special occasion is missed. With holiday themed packages, you can send sweetheart messages  – while birthday packages come with balloons and party hats.

2.   To Stock Their Snacks

A sweet tooth should never be ignored! But with college cafeterias charging a premium for indulgences like chocolate and chips, your student may be going without. Be sure their dorm room pantry is as loaded up with options as it was at your house with one of our many snack filled baskets. From comfort foods like cookies and brownies to essential pig out food such as microwave popcorn and chocolate, there are so many options to get them through the year!

3.   To Take the Pressure Off

Midterms, end of the semester finals, big papers, auditions, presentations, internship applications — even during your student’s freshman year, the stress can add up quickly. With care packages meant to send both boosts of energy and morale, you can say “go get ‘em” without being there. With customizable messages, you can even write out your favorite inspiring quotes or show them that you believe in them.

4.   To Welcome Them

Moving into the dorms can be scary for both you and your student, especially if they’ve never been far from home before. Just as you would a friend moving into a new home, shower them with a special gift to welcome them to their new home. Picking up that package at their new door may even relieve some major homesickness issues.

5.   To Improve Their Health

Care packages aren’t limited to snacks, comfort foods, and chocolates. There are several care packages that are designed for healthy eaters or those with food allergies. From gluten free packs to granolas and fresh fruits, you’re not limited. There are even care packages to be sent when your student is feeling under the weather, that’s full of tasty soups and teas. Finally, if food isn’t what they need to stay at their peak, send a care package full of toiletries like soap, shampoo, and facial cleansers.

6.   To Just Say “Hello”

Care packages don’t have to have a rhyme or reason. You can send yours just because you feel like it or because you think your student could use a little random show of love. That’s what college care packages are for — to make life just a little brighter with a special message from its sender!

Parent’s Corner: Talking to Your Child About Campus Safety


Parent's Corner: Campus Safety

Over the next few weeks, thousands of students are heading off to start the next chapter of their lives. Many will live independently in their own dorms or apartments for the first time in their lives. As parents, it’s important to both be supportive, but to also have an open and honest dialogue about safety and wellness when living alone. Talking to your child about campus safety isn’t the easiest, but there are ways to teach and share this vital information.

Research Together

Did you know that colleges release crime and safety reports yearly? This data is readily available on government and university sites for you to read through. Sit down with your student and pinpoint some of the areas where these crimes happen and talk about what they could do to prevent themselves from being a victim. For example, if a campus has high car break-ins in a particular parking lot, discuss alternate parking areas or map out lamp posts where it’s safer to park.

Tell True Stories

One of the best ways to get both sides talking is to be honest about your own college experiences. Talk about your fears about walking alone at night or how you lost a favorite piece of jewelry at a party.  If you don’t have any stories or didn’t attend college, rope in a younger cousin or a work friend to speak. Having different voices can also show that campus safety issues can happen anywhere and to anyone.

Avoid Fear Tactics

When telling true stories or discussing safety issues, you may be tempted to talk about the worst case scenario. To a college aged student, this may come across as an over exaggeration. A more productive way to talk safety is to do it in general terms. Don’t talk about what could happen if you don’t tell one friend you’re going to a party or if you leave your computer out while you go to the bathroom. Instead, talk about safety like it’s just another part of being an adult. It normalizes the conversation and makes students feel like you are talking to them rather than at them.

Make Sure They’re Prepared

While packing, throw a few other things into their suitcase. Start with flashlights for power outages, whistles for walking late at night, or a first aid kit for medical emergencies. You can even wrap them as an “off to college” gift that you can discuss each purpose. When you’re on campus and unpacking, ask where you can hang a list of phone numbers for important people such as campus police, parents, and family members. Additional safety items that can lead to an awesome discussion are lockable safes, pepper spray (if allowed on campus), and copies of insurance cards.

Listen More Than You Talk

For many college students, there is a sense that once you’re in college, you are a totally capable adult. For parents, this can be frustrating, especially when a college kid shuts down the conversation. But frequently, the problem is not the actual topic of conversation but the way we talk to one another. When you bring up the conversation, ask more questions than giving answers. Be open to what they want to say or discuss, even if it is uncomfortable. And acknowledge both fears and their reluctance to safety ideas. These conversations may not go exactly like you want them too, but just having a safe space where they feel accepted regardless of the issue can be a very powerful resource if something were to happen.

Our Favorite Care Packages for Students Going Off to College


Care packages

Saying goodbye, whether for a week or an entire semester, can be hard on any parent or loved one of a college student. There just aren’t enough ways to say that you care or to wish them luck. One idea is to send them off with a care package perfect for their new dorm room and fast paced, independent lifestyle. These four are our favorite “Off to College” packages made with any college student in mind.

1.   Homesick Helper

Sure, you may be empty nesting, but your college student may be having an equally hard time adjusting to being away from home. Homesickness is particularly powerful for new college students and dorm-dwellers. Freshman, in particular, can feel very lonely or isolated during the first semester.

That’s why the Homesick Helper is one of our favorite packages out there. Made with love and your college student in mind, the package is loaded with their favorite snacks. From childhood favorites like Bazooka Gum to essentials like Kellogg’s granola bars, they’ll be covered with any comfort food and snack craving they may have.

2.   Welcome Package and Move In Mug

Moving in can be a difficult and emotional process. It takes a ton out of you, and in the end, you’re left with a space to fill with new memories. Care packages like the Welcome Package and Move In Mug is a great way to make the move in process a little easier and the space a bit more homier.

In the care package, you’ll get a mini package full of not only favorite treats (popcorn, Oreos, Pop-Tarts), but also drink mixes, all in a cute “move-in” bag. The mug crosses off one of their ‘must-have’ items off of their packing list, and they come to associate it this special day where they’re surrounded and supported by the ones they love the most.

3.   Grooming Personal Care Collection

Care packages don’t have to be all about food and drinks or cute toys and cards. Sometimes, your college student needs and wants the practical, essential supplies to round out their new home. The two Grooming Personal Care Collections are about as much “care” as you can get when it comes to move in packages.

The Nitty Gritty is made for the guys with a mixture of Axe and Dove men products. As an added bonus, you’ll get a shower tool with detailer, deep clean facial scrub, and Schick Hydro 5 razors for a clean shave when they need to impress. Ladies have their own version called the Primp it Pretty with Dove, St. Ives, Schick, and Simple products. Girls will love facial wipes for makeup, oatmeal scrub face masks, and Colgate Optic White products for a memorable smile.

4.   Year Full of Love Care Package Plan

Maybe you can’t decide what package to get. Maybe you think one package is just not enough. Maybe you feel like your student will need encouragement all year round. There’s a package that will wow and surprise them well past move in day — the Year Full of Love Care Package Plan.

Not just one, two, or three, this plan has our top rated, most popular packages for almost every occasion throughout the year. For the Fall semester alone, you’ll be sending a package for move in day, Halloween, finals, and a “just because” version. For the spring semester, your plan includes a package for Valentine’s Day and spring finals. Each comes with a personalized card where you can leave a message tailored to the student and the occasion.

How to Communicate Boundaries with Your Parents While in College


Parent Boundaries

We love to think that when we graduate high school, we officially become adults. After all, we’re old enough to vote, get a good job, and even go off on our own to college.

Of course, our parents often have other ideas. Even though we’re ready to do our own thing, they can treat us like we’re still in high school. This can be helped by setting some boundaries with your parents. Here are some ways you can get them to respect your space — without the usual drama.


How to Communicate Boundaries With Parents While in College

Step 1: Start Early

One of the worst things you can do is ignore the situation and just hope for the best. This is even true with the coolest parents, who can sometimes be the biggest rule-breakers when it comes to dropping in unexpectedly or contacting professors on your behalf.

To avoid this, use the summer to talk about what you expect from them, and listen to what they want from you as well. Bring it up casually, like around the dinner table, so it doesn’t seem so rehearsed, or set it up so that you have “stories” of friend’s parents who crossed the line.


Step 2: Be Proactive

Usually, parents just want to know when they’re going to see their kids again. By scheduling not only break time with your folks but regular meetings (like a “Parent’s Day”), you can give them something to look forward to while heading off any clinginess. They’ll especially appreciate if you make a big deal out of the event.

If your parents live nearby, be careful of making promises to come home for weekends. Point out that you plan on joining a sorority and that your weekends will be taken up or show your dad the football schedule and talk about your tailgating plans. The more involved you are, the less opportunity your parents will have opportunity to jump in.


Step 3: Honesty Wins

It can be hard to say, “I don’t like/want that,” but it’s essential to establishing who you are and what you need out of your relationship. This may mean hurting some feelings, but if you remain positive and push the brighter side to your parents, it can be easily mended.

Anticipating serious boundary breaking means a family discussion before leaving for school. Strict parents like to see when their kids have plans or have through through situations beforehand, so come prepared. Grab your potential school and activity schedule and point out times that would and would not be appropriate to call. Or, print out the university’s rules on student privacy. Your parents might be shocked to learn that they can’t just call on your behalf or get information about your grades, classes, health, roommates, etc without your permission.


Step 4: Be Understanding

While you may be amped up to move out, your parents are going through something completely different. They’re getting ready to say goodbye. And while some parents really love the fact that their baby is grown, others want to cling on to their mom and dad duties a bit longer.

The key to being understanding is being a good listener. Let them talk about how much they’ll miss you and all the hopes and dreams they have for you while you’re gone. Spend good, quality time with them, even if it is just grabbing ice cream or seeing a movie. And finally, be open to their concerns. They are your parents, after all, and their love knows no bounds.