It’s summer: the season of campfires, goodies on the grill, fun in the sun, and romance. But between work, friends, family and other commitments, it can often be a challenge to fit a relationship into the mix. And if your college boyfriend/girlfriend happens to live in a different state, this can only further complicate things.
So that being said, how can you make time for your loved one? How can you make sure coworkers, friends and family understand? How can you maintain your relationship and enjoy the summer with them?
Maintaining a College Relationship Over the Summer
Before things start to get too busy, arrange a time to go over your summer schedules together and find times that you know will work for the both of you. For example, if you both work Monday through Friday, you’ll know to plan for weekend get-togethers throughout the summer.
Make note of bigger events that you know of ahead of time, like family reunions, vacations, etc. so you can both plan around them.
Talk to family and friends.
If they’re good friends, they’ll understand that you’ll want to spend time with your significant other over the summer. To avoid any drama, however, make sure you’re spending time with them as well. And of course, it’s always a good idea to facilitate interaction between your friends and your significant other. Long story short, spend time with your friends alone, but also make sure to spend time with your friends and significant other in a group setting. Testing these grounds and creating that inclusive atmosphere from the get-go will ensure that your friends feel included, but also understand that you and your significant other need alone time as well.
If or when you run into an issue, have a conversation, preferably in person. Instead of getting defensive and confrontational, approach the situation calmly and respectfully — because chances are, it’s nothing personal against your boyfriend/girlfriend. Assure your friend that you love them and love spending time with them, but that you need time with your boo too. But if they need constant reassurance and have trouble respecting how you choose to spend your time, perhaps a more serious conversation is on the table.
At the end of the day, however and with whomever you decide to spend your summer, it’s all about having fun and making the most of it! Have adventures, make memories, and share the love!